this is really hard. my adopted daughter has a brother who does not live with us. When he was 9 or so he laid on her and "humped" her clothes on.we had him removed from our home and after counciling allowed visits now at 13.he did it again. I haven't allowed him back. but my daughter crys because she can't see him. I asked a friend who was abused by her 1/2 bro she says the sibling bond is stronger than the abuse and i should let them visit with lots of supervision like never out of my sight. I am torn either way i am hurting my daughter i feel
Asked by Anonymous at 11:35 AM on Apr. 1, 2010 in Adoption
No. I see no good coming of it.
I think perhaps you should seek out a counselor to speak to... you alone.... someone familiar with adoption and/or incest. That way you can have someone knowledgeable to bounce issues off of.
Answer by Anonymous at 11:38 AM on Apr. 1, 2010
Answer by Slinkee at 11:42 AM on Apr. 1, 2010
Answer by mom2snsb at 11:47 AM on Apr. 1, 2010
What an awful and sad situation. I'd ask an expert. Try Marlou Russell, she's nice and I'm sure she'd answer an email.
Her website: http://marlourussellphd.com/default.aspx
Her email address: firstname.lastname@example.org
Answer by onethentwins at 12:21 PM on Apr. 1, 2010
Answer by motherofhope98 at 2:07 PM on Apr. 1, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 11:26 PM on Apr. 1, 2010
Answer by Bellarose0212 at 2:23 AM on Apr. 2, 2010
Answer by doodlebopfan at 3:50 AM on Apr. 3, 2010
Keep in mind that children who have been traumatized an had to be in foster care etc. sometimes will test the people around them to see if the new adults around them are trust worthy and can keep them safe. This is not to say that your daughter is doing this consciously or anything like that but it is something to think about, She may also feel that the behavior is normal in some way and she doesn't deserve any better any way. I would stay away from contact just to be safe. What a sad situation for all involved:(
Answer by Luuckymommy at 9:10 AM on Apr. 3, 2010
Answer by whiteroses82 at 9:23 PM on Apr. 4, 2010
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