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My daughter's boyfriend asked her to marry him after her "friend" called her and told her they had sex a year ago.He put a deposit on a ring but she had him take it off a few months later.She now has her status on facebook as single but she sees boyfriend as much if not more. She says she can go out with other people SO that she doesn't feel she has missed out before they get married but he says he doesn't want to date anyone else.Anyone else think it's weird?

Any ideas on how to get her to just move on. He has changed his ways in last 6mos but I feel if things got rough when they were married he would do something again. Do you feel it she has low self esteem or just comfortable with him that she stays?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 6:06 AM on Apr. 3, 2010 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • It sounds like your daughter knows she should not marry him, but is having trouble letting him go.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:13 AM on Apr. 3, 2010

  • The only thing you can do is give her your opinion as her mom. After that, she will do whatever she want. My saying, "You can't tell grown folks what to do".
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 7:05 AM on Apr. 3, 2010

  • I think maybe deep down inside, she does not want to let go. But I think as a parent, there is very little you can do other that support her decision. Sometimes things just have to play out. She will move on in her own time, or maybe they will patch this up. I agree, he would probably do this again but he to could grow and mature.
    CorrinaWithrow

    Answer by CorrinaWithrow at 8:34 AM on Apr. 3, 2010

  • how old is your daughter? If she is youngish then I can see her wanting to 'explore' other people, but, on the same note, I don't think that anyone who is thinking about marriage should look past their future life partner.
    vanillagirl422

    Answer by vanillagirl422 at 9:00 AM on Apr. 3, 2010

  • She said no the 1st time he asked. She knows he's not for marrying or she'd have said yes that time.
    twinsplus2more

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 3:45 PM on Apr. 3, 2010

  • She's an adult, there's nothing about this that is your business.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:11 PM on Apr. 3, 2010

  • IF she is not married, then SINGLE is her status...
    PestPatti

    Answer by PestPatti at 11:21 AM on Apr. 4, 2010

  • To PestPatti - Not true on FB....FB allows for statuses to read SINGLE, MARRIED, ENGAGED, and IN A RELATIONSHIP.....so if not married doesn't mean that the status is single on FB.
    twinsplus2more

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 4:28 PM on Apr. 4, 2010

  • I'd leave her alone. She sounds like she knows what she's doing. Other women would be wise to check other people out before they commit too. So many come here crying they want their x back and married the wrong guy and now are unhappy.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:53 PM on Apr. 4, 2010

  • Momma stay out of their drama..

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:27 PM on Apr. 14, 2010

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