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HOW do you deal with a very difficult 16 year old girl. She is getting worse by the day and I don't know if I can handle her.

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Asked by Eshayb at 6:30 AM on Apr. 5, 2010 in Teens (13-17)

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  • sorry need way more details. is it school her clothing what is she doing?

    Answer by mom2snsb at 7:57 AM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • Yeah you need to say what's going on.

    Answer by mrsjonzy at 8:28 AM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • No one can give advice when you give generalities. You need to outline the problem.

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 8:39 AM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • what they said...

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 10:10 AM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • Need more information to help you out.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 11:19 AM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • 16 year olds need just as much love and attention as any child, just in a grown up way. Just because they don't express it doesn't mean they don't need you.

    Answer by Happypancake at 11:25 AM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • It's hard to give advice without knowing any specifics but a lot of "difficult" kids live in very strict homes so they will naturally be rebellious.


    Answer by beeky at 12:44 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • Well trying to "handle " her is your problem. Quit treating her as though she were still a child. Show her respect. Treat her like a young lady and she may respond better to what you are trying to teach her. Give her some freedoms and pick your battles with her.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:43 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • find the root of the problem! drugs, boys, someone passed away, bulling, school is hard, do u not give her enough attention, does she hear u argue with hubby, teachers don't care, boyfriend is a jerk? etc

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:29 AM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • speaking from experience, may I suggest some one on one time with your 16year old, maybe a weekend getaway where you can bond (camping, mother/daughter spa treatment or short roadtrip). Or perhaps participating in a 5k or planning a day trip where you go somewhere new (perhaps bike riding or hiking) just the two of you. There are a lot of retreats going on right now as well. I believe this would make a world of difference. She may not be keen at first but if you find a common interest when you plan the event/day, you both will bond. Good luck :)

    Answer by MamaVandy at 1:47 AM on Apr. 7, 2010

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