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Did you use this method to try and concieve a boy or girl? Do you think it actually works?

Ive heard and read that woman will base the time that they have intercourse of which gender they are wanting. For example if they are wanting a boy then they will have sex 2-3 days before there ovulation because female sperm die quicker then male sperm and the male sperm will be the only ones left by the time they ovulate. If they are wanting to have a girl then they will have intercourse the day they are to ovulate. Do you believe in this method? Have you ever heard of anyone doing this and it working? Im just curious after reading about it. Thanks!

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Asked by AProsser at 3:37 PM on Apr. 5, 2010 in Trying to Conceive

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  • Nope, don't believe it a bit. It's a toss up because it actually takes a lot more than one little sperm to get to that egg. You need a bunch of them "attacking" to break through, and so the one that breaks through could be either. Just because one "type" might be more likely to die first doesn't mean they do.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:38 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • you can't make one sperm faster than the other. it's all chance....whichever sperm gets there the fastest determines the sex. you have no control over it and anyone who says it's worked was purely coincidence. after all it's a 50/50 chance

    Answer by aliishott2 at 3:45 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • First you have it a little wrong. It is called the Shettle's method and scientific studies show that the boys sperm tend to swim faster and die quicker and the female ones swim slower and live longer. It is no where near 100% but it does help to up the odds a little bit for a girl or boy and it worked twice for us. That could have been chance, but the Shettle's method certainly didn't hurt our chances of a boy or girl when we wanted. The point about it taking a lot of sperm to break through is true, but if you increase the number of male sperm attacking then your chances of a male being the one to break through are greater and same for a girl. If you are trying for either sex then I would definitely recommend it to help up the chances, but don't think it will definitely give you what you are trying for.

    Answer by aeneva at 3:52 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • I agree with aeneva, it the Shettle's method but it is not 100% we tried it and didn't work for us. We are ecstatic nonetheless ;)

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:55 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • Tried it, didn't work.

    Answer by gdiamante at 3:58 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • tried it with both kids once it worked once it didn't.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:43 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • aeneva has it right. It's the Shettles Method and we used it successfully. You have to be absolutely positive of when you're ovulating though (I had a preovulatory ultrasound).

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 7:28 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • aeneva is right. We did it. It worked.

    Answer by ecodani at 8:17 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

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