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Bring the spark back....

My DH and I have had a hard past 1 1/2. And I fear its slowly killing our marriage. Anyone have any ideas to try and bring the spark back to us. The heat you had when you dated. I know we still love eachother, just seems like we've settled into routine, and gotten bored

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:53 PM on Apr. 5, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Sorry, no advice im in the same position.

    Answer by ilybaby8609 at 4:39 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • You answered your own question.  Go back to the basics and start dating again.  You say you've settled into a routine, that sounds like you are just co-existing.  Doing things together allows you to re-connect and that brings back the intimacy, in and out of the bedroom.


    Answer by beeky at 5:37 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • Agree with 2nd response. You need to start making time for eachother. Need date nights. After being married for 11 years, lots of rough patches, the only way to get the spark back is to pretend to start over. Simply holding hands, a surprise kiss...laughing, dinners out, dancing in the silly with eachother! Surprise him with notes in his shoes or in his vehicle...let him know you want him, not just in the bedroom.

    Answer by mybratsmom at 7:58 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • Have lots of "we" time. Find each other again. Tell him he's dreamy! I read that one of the things wives don't do after a while is to tell dh he rocks or he looks good. We all like compliments. That's how other women lure so many married men. They feed the man's ego and get his attention. You can do that with your dh too.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:49 PM on Apr. 5, 2010

  • We bought a porch swing a few years ago and it was a great invest in our marriage, we turned off the TV and sat outside under the stars and talked! It's amazing how you forget to communicate with your spouse and how that can change the "status" of your marriage. Get a bottle or two of wine and chat it up....then get out a blanket and make out like teenagers!
    Most importantly, you HAVE to make time for each other.

    Answer by Julians_Momma at 9:53 AM on Apr. 6, 2010

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