The other night we baby-sat for my neighbor’s 7-year-old daughter who is home schooled. When the mom dropped her off she told me her daughter was reading 2nd and 3rd grade books so she could read to my son. I pulled out a few of his books for her to read and she couldn’t do it. She asked if she could read ones she brought from home and she whipped right through them. She clearly had her books memorized. I’m a reading teacher so I was able to evalute her as she read to us. She couldn’t sound out words simple words. I’m not that concerned about her reading level because she isn’t that far behind and all kids don't learn to read through phonics. What concerns me is that her mother is way off base about her abilities. Should I politely mention that her daughter isn’t reading as well as she thinks she is? I’ve offered to help with her kids before and she seems very resistant.
It sounds as if your neighbor is an "unschooler" and "unschooling" does work. However I do feel there is a fine line between true "unschooling" and NOT teaching. That line can be blurred and hard to see on the outside looking in, because it's not traditional schooling. I know nothing more about your neighbor so I don't have enough information to say one way or another. It's a shame that she wouldn't be open to at least listening to what you would have to say. Listening to it doesn't mean she would have to follow it. We all could use some constructive criticism and we all should be open to it to some degree. Hopefully, she is involved in some co-op and the local homeschooling community so that she would be able to get some input from her peers, other homeschoolers, on these issues. Based on what you have said in future replies I think it would be best if you let it go.
Answer by SAHMinIL2 at 10:31 AM on Apr. 7, 2010
Answer by sarah_smile at 8:36 AM on Apr. 6, 2010
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Answer by DawnA72 at 10:13 AM on Apr. 6, 2010
I am a homeschool mom and I would say mind your own business.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:41 AM on Apr. 6, 2010
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Answer by SAHMinIL2 at 3:54 PM on Apr. 6, 2010
Also if you can do it without sounding judgmental I would find out what she is using for a reading curriculum. Just like everything else not all homeschooling curriculum is created equal. She maybe using a program that is giving her the impression that her daughter's reading level is higher then what it is. In addition she may know her daughter is struggling, but is trying to boost her ego. My daughter has convergence insufficiency so she is about 1/2 grade behind in her reading. Seeing she's 8 and wants to be reading chapter books I have gotten her phonic based chapter books.Â They are very short stories and I really wouldn't consider it to be chapter book, but it's written like chapter book and it has boost her ego to be reading "chapter books". The ego boost has helped her with reading. I proudly say she's reading chapter books, but I also explain to others that don't know that they are her special books.
Answer by SAHMinIL2 at 4:06 PM on Apr. 6, 2010