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HOW DO YOU KEEP A BABY AWAY FROM HER BIRTH MOTHER WHEN YOU HAVE LEGAL RIGHT OF THE BABY.

I HAVE LEGAL RIGHTS TO A FRIENDS BABY THAT WAS GOING TO BE TOOK FROM HER SHE CALLS CRYING EVERY DAY THAT SHE WANTS TO SEE THE BABY THE COURT SAYS NO BUT IT RIPS MY HEART OUT TO TELL HER NO WHAT DO I DO NOT HURT HER OR THE BABY

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:07 PM on Apr. 6, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • I know it must be hard to listen to your friend cry about missing her baby BUT there was a reason the baby was removed from her and placed with you, and there is a reason why she is not allowed contact. You need to stay strong and remind her that there is a court order in place and you cannot allow her over to see the baby. Do NOT give in to her and sneak visits because if the court finds out that you allowed her visits you could be in trouble and she could get in trouble.
    MizLee

    Answer by MizLee at 4:09 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • if she is barred from seeing the baby, say no, or you could be in contempt of court yourself
    peanutsmommy1

    Answer by peanutsmommy1 at 3:10 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • I think that if you know she a good mom then you should recommended to the court that she see the baby.. until then sneak visits with her & the baby.. however if they had good reason to take the baby don't answer the phone when she answers maybe write a letter to her why you think she lost the baby & how to get her back, give her a pic of the baby.
    maiahlynn

    Answer by maiahlynn at 3:14 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • yes, you should absolutely sneak visits so that you can lose her too....
    peanutsmommy1

    Answer by peanutsmommy1 at 3:15 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • Change your phone number.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:28 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • Dont sneak visits...the baby was taken for a reason. suggest to the mom that she go through the courts and get visitation. If she really wants to see her baby she will do so. Until then I would ignore her, as hard as it may be it is the right thing to do until the mom resolves her issues and everything is cleared up. You could find yourself in a heap of trouble and the baby taken from you if you disregard the court order.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:28 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • Don't sneak visits. If you do the baby can be taken from you and put into a foster home.
    BlooBird

    Answer by BlooBird at 3:31 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • Do not go behind the Court's back because the baby was taken for a reason. The mom needs to learn her lesson and, even though it is hard, your job is to protect that baby. Your friend will try to pull on your heartstrings to let her see her but do not give in. You will be in A LOT of legal trouble if you do. If it gets to be too much, ask for the child to be placed in someone else's care. Ask your friend to please respect your position and the job you are charged with doing and not to put you in difficult situations anymore. Tell her to work on her life and her situation or whatever got the baby taken away, to prove to the court she deserves the child back. Children are a privledge not a right.
    katie23

    Answer by katie23 at 4:44 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • You cannot let her visit. It is for her own good. One day she may visit and even have custody again. That will never happen if you and her both agree to meet. She then will never even have updates. Give brief updates and pics through the social worker or her family who can pass on the information. What may be temporRy now can be forever if you and she do not follow the rules.
    frogdawg

    Answer by frogdawg at 6:39 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • you need to think of what is best for the baby. as these other women have said, the baby was taken away for a reason. courts dont take kids away from their mothers - especially babies over little things.

    stick to the court order and dont answer the phone when she calls if it is that hard. think of the child's best interest. if her mother really want to see the baby and have the baby back, she will do what she has to do to get the baby back - and caling and begging you is not the way to do that.
    aly38914290

    Answer by aly38914290 at 8:39 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

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