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how to improve sex life

for the past couple of months my so and i have not had much sex about once a week, and he is the one not wanting it. he says he is tired, but i cannot help but feel that it is me. i know he loves me and he is not cheating on me. he does work abo0ut 12 hours a day sometime, but i tell him he still needs to make time for me. he just gets mad and says he has to work to support us. i understand that but now it has been three weeks and i dont know what to do. any help i would love...

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:29 PM on Apr. 6, 2010 in Relationships

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  • I think you're being unreasonable if he's working that much. Sex doesn't mean everything. And once a week isn't a tragedy. If it had been months, then you might have a problem, but this is nothing and you need to get over it.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:42 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • I had the same problem when my husband use to work two jobs and as selfish as it sounds I wanted more attention because he was gone more. Sometimes I would ask him for sex but he would say he was tired. Eventually he told me that it wasn't that he didn't want o have sex with me it was that he really was tired and felt like he was going to end up doing all the work (true) so I just started doing all the work. That turned out fun, he never said no to that........but then he started asking for it all the time......kinda backfired on me.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:48 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • Maybe you should get a job then he wouldn't have to work such long hours.

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:09 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • I work 12 hour night shifts and if my husband complained about not getting sex I would have it less just for him being so insensitive

    Answer by awelling at 7:11 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

  • TMI- 3 weeks? I feel for you!

    I agree with anon 648- why not just have him lie back and have it with you on top? Or when he's lying back start with giving him a blow job- maybe that will work out for you.

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:17 PM on Apr. 6, 2010

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