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Don't they now have a case against the police?

I mean really; if they are standing there telling the cops; we're sorry a neighbor called you but we're perfectly fine (& gettin' busy) how can they arrest you anyway??

Don't they have some sort of "wrongful arrest" suit or something? If that doesn't apply can you explain why?

I mean I get that they "dropped" the charges; but she was still arrested; still perp walked out of her home (during or right after an intimate moment) taken to jail; booked; and then have had her name and pictures in the media because of this.

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:06 AM on Apr. 7, 2010 in Politics & Current Events

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  • Former "CSI" star Gary Dourdan has cleaned up his act and a legal mess after his girlfriend got arrested last month for domestic violence.
    TMZ has learned the criminal case against Dourdan's girlfriend, Maria Asis del Alamo, was dismissed today. Turns out the whole thing was a big misunderstanding.

    Seems Gary and Maria were having a good time in a Venice, CA home, when a nosy neighbor mistook passion for violence. The cops came and, despite Gary's protests, they arrested Maria after noticing a scratch on Gary's neck.

    Prosecutors now realize it was the sound of love, so the case has gone bye-bye

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:06 AM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • NOPE.

    Answer by mhaney03 at 9:24 AM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • And uh why not?

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:40 AM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • No because if they suspect someone is being hurt they have to check it out. could you imagine how many abusers would get away if they didn't? Better to be wrong once than 100 times.

    Answer by BlooBird at 9:43 AM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • That's fine they checked it out - the couple was having sex! He had one scratch on his neck and they arrested her!? That seems excessive to me.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:47 AM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • According to this line of thought...the next time police go to a home where domestic violence really is taking place and the wife with choke marks around her neck insists it was sex...because she was SCARED of her husband...the police should just walk away. Okaaayyyy.

    The police exercised due diligence. Period.

    Answer by yourspecialkid at 9:52 AM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • Unfortunately too many abuse victims have lied to police and the law had to be passed to protect them. I'm sorry these two got caught up in it but there is no basis for a suit.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:57 AM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • yourspecial - there is a difference between a woman with finger marks around her neck being afraid of the man and a man with one scratch on his neck telling the police things are fine and he's not afraid of his girlfriend??

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:00 AM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • I don't understand how you can compare obvious abuse marks with ONE scratch!??!

    Shouldn't they INVESTIGATE before they arrest?

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:01 AM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • In many states, all reports of domestic violence require they separate the two people for a period of time. Any SIGN of actual violence, including scratches, are cause for arrest.

    Just because there was only ONE visible sign, it doesn't mean the guy didn't have other signs of abuse that couldn't be immediately recognized.  And just because it was a GUY it doesn't mean he couldn't be abused and scared to admit it.

    The cops were following protocol.  They did the right thing.



    Answer by mancosmomma at 10:13 AM on Apr. 7, 2010

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