I am one of those people who hates to be the cause of hurt for others and right now my mind is in so many different directions. My marriage has been unhappy for quite some time and I am seeing things so much clearer in regards to my marriage. I do not think my husband treats me the greatest. Granted he does not beat me, but I could say he is verbally combative at times which could be considered verbal abuse, but I banter back so I guess I am just a culpable. I have been with this man on and off since 1994. We have been married for over 8 yrs, we have kids together and there is a lot of history and a big piece of my lifed tied to him. But when I honestly assess my feelings I know my heart is no longer there. I feel like I have settled. I feel like I have been and still am putting everyone else above my feelings and dreams. Priority #1 is my children and that will NOT change. Am I staying out of guilt?
Asked by Anonymous at 2:33 PM on Apr. 7, 2010 in Relationships
As I read what you wrote it sounds like you are staying because it is easier than change. Then at the end you come up with guilt. Where is that coming from?
Have you really made priorities or have you just been living day to day? If your first priority was your children then you wouldn't want them to live in a home with an unhappy marriage. Your husband verbally abuses you. It's been going on for a long time.
Women like to say their kids come first because it sounds good. You know what you need to do if you really want to make your kids your priority. You need to take care of yourself. You need to get rid of your husband.
Answer by Gailll at 2:47 PM on Apr. 7, 2010
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