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my in laws (that i've never met) are coming to visit from jordan(mid east)...what do i do?

im very excited to meet them AND NERVOUS! this is their 1st time in the US, so everything will be new to them & maybe a lil overwhelming. any suggestions from anyone about in laws from diff. countries coming over to visit? how can i make thier trip fun, easy & comfortable. They're both in thier 70's.

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beachmom0703

Asked by beachmom0703 at 11:20 PM on Apr. 7, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Exciting, and scary at once huh?

    They're kind of old, so I'd think site seeing with them, would be good and enjoyable for them.

    Ask your hubby if they like tea/coffee/treats so that you can have some of those on hand to offer.

    Read up a little about their culture.

    Gather a list of the sites that are best to see in your state or city...

    Do they like movies? If so have a few of their genre preferences available. :D

    Good luck :D
    Skepticchick

    Answer by Skepticchick at 11:25 PM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • There are some things you'll have to find out when they get here, like, do they want to try "american" food, or will that be hard for them? Maybe your DH can tell you? If so, make some good ole' american food. Keep basics like rice, potatoes, and bread on hand. Fresh tomatoes, cucumbers, onions, parsley... these are things they're probably used to in Jordan. Are they religious? Find out how their religion might affect what they eat. Ask your DH LOTS of questions! Invite your in-laws to teach you how to cook their food. And of course, site-seeing... find out what's nearby! Give them souvenier gives like t-shirts and post-cards and little american flags. Take them to the fair one day. Have fun!
    Adelicious

    Answer by Adelicious at 11:25 PM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • Prepare yourself before you meet your in-laws for the first time, make sure that you know your stuff. Have a discussion with your partner ahead of time and have him or her give you a quickie course of "In-Laws: 101". Find out what things they like, what they do for a living, what their hobbies are, and so on. Make sure to get pertinent info on any touchy issues, such as politics and religion. Learning a bit about your in-laws ahead of time allows you keep the conversation flowing while avoiding touchy subjects.

    Married to someone from a different culture. At this first meeting, it's imperative that you do everything you can to show respect for your honey's heritage. Learn as much as you can about that culture, especially greetings (should you shake their hands, bow, or kiss them on the cheek?) Maybe ask your partner to teach you how to say hello in their language if different than yours. :D
    Skepticchick

    Answer by Skepticchick at 11:33 PM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • i second learning about their culture. Also, to make them feel comfortable, i might even go as far as to make minor adjustments to my furniture arrangements or other such things to make it look and feel like "home". They are already going to be so bombarded by the American culture when they get here that returning to a place that kind of reminds them where they came from will probably be comforting and relaxing.
    I also like the idea of asking your MIL to teach you how to cook their foods. Great bonding!
    Plan things to do but try not to overwhelm them. Give them ideas of the different option of things they can do and ask them which ones they'd like to do.
    outstandingLove

    Answer by outstandingLove at 11:34 PM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • what they said. learn the culture, ask your partner lots of questions, be genuinely interested in the things they have to say, and prepare yourself to not be offended if they don't understand or agree with the way you do things. maybe consult with your partner and prepare a native dish for them as a welcoming meal. and it wouldn't hurt to look up Jordanian current events!
    mellypoo

    Answer by mellypoo at 11:43 PM on Apr. 7, 2010

  • I like the above suggestions, plus maybe fill a basket with things they might need like shampoo, soaps, conditioners, ask your husband about things they use, and put it by their bed, along with a bedside water pitcher. Ask hubby about any dietary needs, and then relax, and be the lovely person that your husband fell in love with, and they will too!
    ohwrite

    Answer by ohwrite at 2:29 AM on Apr. 8, 2010

  • Be your true self, let them know you the real you! Let loose as an don't be nervouse, keep in mind they are nervouse too! Sorry my English is still bad but u have an idea as to waht I meen. Smile, act as if you allready know them and they love you to death then you'll see that they will end up loving you....Breath,lelax but oh my! hide all the sex toys is any lol.lol BEST OF LUCK, PLEASE LET US KNOW HOW IT WHENT.
    Sincitymamy

    Answer by Sincitymamy at 2:58 AM on Apr. 8, 2010

  • THANX GIRLS 4 ALL UR IDEAS! i appreciate them! i cant wait 4 them 2 come! i do know alot about the culture, i try to learn as much as i can, but its still a lil nerve racking. lol! i think they'll b happy just 2 come 4 a visit.
    beachmom0703

    Answer by beachmom0703 at 8:21 PM on Apr. 8, 2010

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