My daughter was sexually assaulted several years ago. She is only now willing to go to counseling and would never speak to the police previously. The counselor has informed me that by law (rightly so) social services and the police will be informed, as she is a minor. What exactly can I expect from social services? We have a nice home, no police records for either parent, and no one hurts her in any way in our home, but I have no idea what to expect. I do not want them to cause her any further emotional upheaval if I have any say about it. We were not involved in her assault in any way. I just have no idea what to expect having never had contact with them in any way, shape, or form in the past.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:48 PM on Apr. 8, 2010 in Teens (13-17)
I used to be a CPS case worker. Since the assault didn't occur in the home or by a family member, CPS will get in, write up a report, and get out. Their job is to take care of kids that are abused in the home or by family members. This is clearly not a CPS case and they have too many cases to deal with to want to spend much time on your situation.
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Answer by LovingMom210 at 10:26 PM on Apr. 8, 2010
Just answer their questions as completely as you can and as honestly as you know how to be and all should be fine. Remember, they are just trying to help. They certainly want to do whatever is easiest for them and best for the child. Don't look at them as 'out to get me' but as an extension of the police--trying to do what is best for the victim. I am just so sorry your child even has to deal with this. It makes me sick to think that people are hurting children with no remorse whatsoever! Very little punishment when they do get caught. I know some people will think you should have contacted the police anyway, but don't let them brow beat you! No matter what decision you made about that, if it was in the best interest of YOUR CHILD, then it was the RIGHT decision!! At least she told you! So many don't. Hugs and prayers for healing!!
Answer by SimplyLaine at 8:03 AM on Apr. 9, 2010