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Why don't parents effectively discipline their children? Everyone claims that their children are disciplined and well behaved but literally 9 out 10 children in public act ridiculous. I was getting my son's pictures taken and a four year old came up and hit me in the face while i was trying to pick out portraits. We were at the park and two little boys came up to my husband and threw sand at him and my one year old. Both of these parents just stood their watching and said nothing to their children, one of them even laughed. That's only two of the incidents of bad behavior I've witnessed. What is wrong with parents these days? If my child acted like that he would be in so much trouble. I think that we should reinstate spanking sometimes kids just need it.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:39 AM on Apr. 9, 2010 in General Parenting
Answer by Anonymous at 11:44 AM on Apr. 9, 2010
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Answer by BradenIsMySon at 11:47 AM on Apr. 9, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 11:48 AM on Apr. 9, 2010
Heh. Well, I don't think literally 9 out of 10 kids aren't disciplined. Sometimes it feels that way, though.
It's important to remember that we don't know how kids are just by one interaction with them. Young children tend to have the most issues in public (at least I know mine do!). And even if it seems like parents don't react to their bad behavior, there are a lot of reasons why that could be.
Some kids really aren't well-behaved at the sake of the parents. But I think most of them are just going through phases that we all went through. I think for the most part, parents DO discipline their kids, even if it's not on OUR terms. : )
Answer by mickstinator at 11:48 AM on Apr. 9, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 12:03 PM on Apr. 9, 2010
i'm with you there hunny, and i think the 9 out of 10 is totally accurate to "my standards". all the moms who would say different are judging it by "their standards" of a well behaved child, and that's the problem. most mom's standards have become so low it's ridiculous. you get compliments in public if your children isn't screaming and acting like a monster but that doesn't even make sense. why compliment a child for behaving how they should behave in the first place. that's like rewarding them for behaving in the store. that only shows them that there is an option to be a monster but they can chose to be good for a treat. my children don't have an option to be naughty.
Answer by KristaRene at 12:21 PM on Apr. 9, 2010
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