I posted here a few days ago, about my MIL being jealous about my DH and I buying our first home. Everyone said she sounded jealous, and I agree. But I was wondering, anyone have any tips on how I can get my DH to understand that she is just being jealous, and that it isn't anything to do with HIM? He's been depressed since she said that, and has been going around asking his friends and family if he's acting like he's "better than everyone" (that is what she said he was doing). His mother has always been emotionally incestual towards him, treating him like he's her husband, not her son. She is just angry that we are moving out of state, away from her (for good reason), and she's purposely making him feel guilty for doing it. She KNOWS we have no way to buy a home HERE, we are moving to an area that is cheaper. But she doesn't care, she would be happy to see us in a rented trailer forever! How do I console him?
Answer QuestionAsked by Anonymous at 5:24 PM on Apr. 9, 2010 in Adult Children (18+)
Answer by BUSYLOVINGHIM at 5:33 PM on Apr. 9, 2010
I agree!!! YOU and your HUSBAND DESERVE, hear me..DESERVE happiness with HIS NEW FAMILY.
Answer by jblueeyes228 at 5:46 PM on Apr. 9, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 6:48 PM on Apr. 9, 2010
Answer by CorrinaWithrow at 11:40 PM on Apr. 11, 2010
Answer by admckenzie at 11:34 PM on Apr. 14, 2010
My MIL isn't jealous of her sons, it is the opposite, they don't rate compared to her "darling" daughters. I have been able to see it for years (married 31 years), he never could. About two years ago he caught her actually lying to him about family issues at his sisters wedding, that finally opened his eyes. Now he and his brother look back on events in the past with much better understanding. Point is, you wont be able to convenience him that his mother is doing him wrong, he will eventually have to recognize it or himself. Just be there to support him when he does.
Answer by emptynstr at 2:51 PM on Apr. 15, 2010
Answer by mom2mybabes at 11:44 AM on Apr. 19, 2010
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