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7 yr old put on plane by adoptive parents and sent back to Russia alone, because adoptees say agency did not disclose all medical information...what do you say?

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Asked by my2kids312 at 8:48 PM on Apr. 9, 2010 in Adoption

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  • It doesn't matter what was disclosed, you don't treat a child like that. And if they did any homework about Russian adoption they would have known the risk.

    Answer by BlooBird at 8:51 PM on Apr. 9, 2010

  • oh that poor child!! She/He has enough rejection already... who gives a crap the medical history, you adopt because you love the child ! Ugh this breaks my heart!

    Answer by Shaneagle777 at 8:53 PM on Apr. 9, 2010

  • i just hope she gets proscuted to the fullest extent of the law. It's not even so much that she couldn't handle the child, it's that she was so cavalier about returning him to his country. As if it didn't matter where he went as long as he was as far away from her as possible. Paid some random man $200 to pick him up in Russia. What if he was a pedophile, or a person looking for kids to sell into slavery.

    Answer by mouse1085 at 9:29 PM on Apr. 9, 2010

  • That is very sad. I wish there could be some way for people to understand that these issues are very likely to come up, even if they are not present at the time of the adoption. RAD is very likely to be an issue for kids like this one. The last few weeks I've had clinical in an inpatient psychiatric unit in a hospital, working with kids ranging from age 7 to 18. Nearly all of them are in the foster children, and probably at least half have been sexually abused at some time in their lives. This is not quite the same situation, but it's a good example of how life experiences have a profound effect on kids and their behavior. I cannot imagine putting a kid on a plane alone with a one-way ticket. That poor kid!

    Answer by Iamgr8teful at 9:30 PM on Apr. 9, 2010

  • oops..."in the foster system"

    Answer by Iamgr8teful at 9:31 PM on Apr. 9, 2010

  • I'm sorry but she is a disgusting human being. Buyer beware. She was duped? Please. She adopted a child, she should have done more research. Once adopted he was her responsibility, she should have gotten him the help he needed instead of shipping him back. Pathetic.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:33 PM on Apr. 9, 2010

  • Unfortunately Shan, research shows that this is not why couples adopt. Small children (90% of International Adoptions are of children under the age of 5) are adopted, often with idealized expectations of how a child may fit into their family. When children have problems, it is not a rare occurance for them to be abused, abandoned or for the parents to demand that they be returned. There is a couple in the United States currently lobbying to get a "return policy" clause added into their State's adoption laws.

    Answer by NovemberLove at 11:07 PM on Apr. 9, 2010

  • Thankfully, stories like this are extremely rare. The amom has stated that had the grandmother put him on the plane and paid someone to get him off the plane. There are people who allow kids to fly alone and that is what they did.

    What is so sad about this story is that the extensive abuse that this child apparently received prior to being adopted was not disclosed to the amom so that she could get him help or at least know what she was facing. The orphanages lie to get the abused children over here and then leave it to Americans to figure it out. International Adoption is already hard enough without stuff like

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:48 PM on Apr. 9, 2010

  • Adopted or not NO child should be treated in such a careless manner.

    Answer by drfink at 12:37 AM on Apr. 10, 2010

  • omg. could any loving PARENT do that to ANY child?

    Answer by outstandingLove at 12:50 AM on Apr. 10, 2010

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