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Is marriage a LEGAL union or a RELIGIOUS union or BOTH? (also posted in Religion section)

IF it is a LEGAL union why shouldn't homosexual marriage or polygamist marriage be legal? Seeing as how it is always RELIGIOUS beliefs which seem to oppose these...

IF it is a RELIGIOUS union why are we required to get a License? And why can justice of the peace or judges preform marriages? Should only religious people be able to get married??

And IF it's BOTH, then why can't each group have it there way? Why can't those who aren't having religious ceremonies have multiple wives or husbands or a spouse of the same sex? And religious ones stick to their beliefs at the same time??

**Yes, I know this is a can or worms question. But I want to know honest opinions.

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SabrinaMBowen

Asked by SabrinaMBowen at 8:31 PM on Apr. 10, 2010 in Politics & Current Events

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  • It is legal and it can be both, but it doesn't have to be both. Legal should trump religious for that very reason. That and while it's "religious" it's not confined to any one religion, despite what some people desperately want to believe.
    NotPanicking

    Answer by NotPanicking at 8:38 PM on Apr. 10, 2010

  • It is a legal union. You do not have to be religious or belong to an organized religion to get married. A religious ceremony is a choice that you make or depending on your religion, is expected of you. However, we all know you can go to your local courthouse to get married or have a wedding officiant perform the ceremony. There is no law saying that you have to belong to a religion to get married and there should be NO LAWS that state you have to be a man & woman to get married either. Religion & Government should be kept separate!
    bookworm65

    Answer by bookworm65 at 8:39 PM on Apr. 10, 2010

  • i think it depends on the person. some people truly believe if its not in a church it doesnt count or something. i think if two people love each other they should be able to get married. but according to the bible being gay is a sin. we got married at the courthouse and we plan to eventually renew our vows in a church, mainly because id like to have a nice wedding.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:43 PM on Apr. 10, 2010

  • The Bible says that God created the institutionof marriage.


    But society uses it as a legal contract, also. It has been good for non-religious folk to be able to get married.


    Why can't homosexuals choose another word.


    The word marriage has been defined for at least a couple millenia now.


    Can someone tell me why homosexuals can't choose a different word.


    If they think that they need the privileges of marriage, fight for them in court, but they should use a different word.


    Marriage already has a definition.


     

    mustbeGRACE

    Answer by mustbeGRACE at 8:59 PM on Apr. 10, 2010

  • For me it's both. In the eyes of the state and country we are married. That's the legal side. My husband can write me off as a dependent. The religious side was the ceremony. I made vows before God in our church in front of our friends and family.
    sopranomommy

    Answer by sopranomommy at 9:02 PM on Apr. 10, 2010

  • The Bible says that God created the institutionof marriage.

    And people were MARRIED for thousands of years before the bible was ever invented. There is nothing inherently Christian (or Jewish for that matter) about marriage or a wedding ceremony, therefore, the bible has no business being involved in its definition.
    NotPanicking

    Answer by NotPanicking at 9:06 PM on Apr. 10, 2010

  • I agree with NP. If Britney Spears can go to Vegas and get married for like an hour and the religous community gave two shits, they shouldn't care about gays or non religous people getting married. I think that if you want a mariage under God then get married in a church. If not then don't.
    trippyhippy

    Answer by trippyhippy at 9:16 PM on Apr. 10, 2010

  • The Bible says that God created the institution of marriage.

    Because EVERY religion and culture before and after Christianity and Judaism, had marriage laws. And in fact many of those cultures (Native American, Aztec, Etruscan...) did permit homosexual union. In fact the first recorded mention of the performance of same-sex marriages occurred during the early Roman Empire. Which was a PRE-BIBLICAL & PRE-CHRISTIAN civilization...

    In the majority of "native" cultures in fact, homosexuality was coveted and seen as beneficial for the progress of society because the number of boys surviving birth has always been higher (until medical science took over) and homosexual men didn't take up wives, so there were then less men in competition for the women.

    Anyways, point being, only in today's overly protective society is homosexuality see as such a bad thing. And homosexual marriage was normal for the majority of history.
    SabrinaMBowen

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 9:17 PM on Apr. 10, 2010

  • Only in today's overly protective society is homosexuality seen as such a bad thing.


     Where did you come up with that? This is the most excepting time for gays that I have ever seen. Before the 1980's you would of not been able to tell anybody you was gay, you would have been shunned or the hell beat out of you. You might have even been hung or shot.


     I don't know where you young people learn some of the crap you say, but somebody is sure feeding you pure bullshit.

    Natesmom507

    Answer by Natesmom507 at 11:08 PM on Apr. 10, 2010

  • Natesmom507-- Where did you come up with that? This is the most excepting time for gays that I have ever seen. Before the 1980's you would of not been able to tell anybody you was gay, you would have been shunned or the hell beat out of you. You might have even been hung or shot.



    I don't know where you young people learn some of the crap you say, but somebody is sure feeding you pure bullshit.


    What SabrinaMBowen was talking about was Pre-Biblical & Pre-Christian civilization. Maybe you might want to re-read her post. Thank You.
    bookworm65

    Answer by bookworm65 at 11:26 PM on Apr. 10, 2010

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