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s/o off getting 'accidentally' pregnant

i see and agree with all the ladies saying that it's not right because they have a rocky relationship and all, but was just curious as to what you would all say in a different situation.

lets say the couples situation is ideal, they have a great relationship, own a house, 2 cars and have 3 kids (but not together) that they have full custody of, the only reason that they are waiting on having a baby is because the boyfriend/SO/husband wants to have nicer things (materialistic things), would you be more accepting of a woman getting 'accidentally' pregnant in that situation?

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:09 PM on Apr. 12, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Nope. The husband could be just using that as an excuse and may not be ready yet. I don't see how anyone could ever do it and not feel guilty. Honesty is so important in a relationship.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:13 PM on Apr. 12, 2010

  • no- if a woman has no children and doesn't want to miss her chance then I could see her looking to possibly do it without the unwilling husband (sperm donor or the like) but I don't condone women getting pregnant on purpose and calling it a accident.

    But on the same note, I don't agree with men who try to claim they 'had nothing to do with it' or that it was 'her fault'. If they had sex with her, they knew there was a chance not matter what. And if they choose to have sex and leave all the birthcontrol responsibility on her, then he knew it could happen.
    If they didn't wear a condom, then I don't want to hear them whine about it.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:40 PM on Apr. 12, 2010

  • No

    Answer by admckenzie at 2:03 PM on Apr. 12, 2010

  • There are no such things as accidents

    Answer by admckenzie at 2:03 PM on Apr. 12, 2010

  • sorry admckenzie.. there ARE such things as accidents. Birth control fails, people lose track of things and mistakes hapen!! My kids are both 'accidents.. but I love them anyways.

    If the woman does it intentionally then it isn't an accident though. If she's not on b/c and he chooses not to use a condom then that isn't an accident either..

    I don't really know what kind of answer your looking for.. but accidents happen.. its what you do afterwards that makes the difference (I think I missed the first question)

    Answer by kristal2146 at 3:16 PM on Apr. 12, 2010

  • When you put "accidentally" in quotes then you mean accidentally on purpose?

    Nope. Not OK STILL. Two people have to be on board with the children thing 100% before they start having sex. If they aren't then they shouldn't be in the same bed, never mind anything else!

    Answer by gdiamante at 4:34 PM on Apr. 12, 2010

  • If it is an intentional "accident" then I would have to say she is in the wrong. I would never do that to my s/o. If he isnt ready (for whatever reason) then he isn't ready and it isn't fair to force that upon him regardless of the couples history and financial situation.

    Answer by MooNFaeRie30 at 5:55 PM on Apr. 12, 2010

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