So I just had our second child 2 weeks ago and I take care of my step son, my husband just went back to work a couple of days ago to a very stressful job that he hates in the oilfield. Well he came home last night and started rubbing on me and I thought hey am I really about to get a nice massage (he absolutly hates doing that) but when I told him good night and gave him a kiss he blew up talking about guys had needs and that didn't make him any different! I dont know what to do anymore, then he started telling me that all his friends cheat on their wives and he said being good never pays. What do I do?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:49 AM on Apr. 13, 2010 in Relationships
Give him a blow job. That's all he wants. Men have 3 basic needs. Food, sleep, and sex. They eat, have sex and go to bed. That's about it. Blow him one good time and he will leave you alone.
Answer by sunshine06 at 9:10 AM on Apr. 13, 2010
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Answer by Anonymous at 9:21 AM on Apr. 13, 2010
For some reason men don't mentally prepare for the '6 week waiting period'. Honestly they probably don't have the ability. For some people sex is a big part of the relationship so if they don't get it things go down hill. Give him a blow job more often, or find some other way to please him. At least he wants you to do it and not himself (or another woman). That says something. Maybe trade a massage for you, a BJ for him. As for everything else, it sounds like you two need to sit down and have a good, civil, talk. No yelling or screaming. Just two adults working out their issues. If you can't do that or it doesn't work, try counseling.
Answer by sunshine06 at 9:30 AM on Apr. 13, 2010
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