I am going to a first bday party for a boy who had past away at birth.

what about naming a star in his honor?

You could try memorial jewelry.

Do you know WHY the baby died? Was there a condition or something? Perhaps making a donation to an organization that does research for that condition in the baby's name, or to an organization that just helps women have healthy babies.

My daughter died almost six years ago. She was 7. Having a birthday party of sorts does help with the grieving process. For the first few years I baked a cake with her name on it. We would either go to the cemetary or stay aat home, but we would have family over, sing happy birthday, release ballons, and celebrate a wonderful life that was cut short intirely to soon! It's not morbid, it's healing. We don't go to the cemetary anymore but I still make her a cake. Her dad, sisters, and I still sing happy birthday. To the OP, I never expected gifts so if you want to bring one, something from your heart would be good. A keepsake, something with the baby's name. I like your idea about the frame, it would be a nice gift, something they can see everyday to remind thim of their little one. My family often gets me things with her name or a poem that reminds them of her. Those things are the most treasured things I own.

Something I've always wanted is one of these: http://www.etsy.com/listing/19718549/four-layers-of-love-necklace-thicker-cha
You could make it with her, her husband, and all the kids names, or just her kids names. I think if I was throwing this birthday party for my baby that died at birth, that necklace would make me cry and hug you.

The point is to let the mom know that everyone remembers her baby. You don't get over a loss like that you just get used to it. i like the idea of a charm or maybe a mother's ring with the baby's stone. My sister miscarried twice and felt the loss all her life. When i found her dead on the floor in her bedroom of a heart attack she had a beautiful smile on her face and i do believe she was hugging her babies. Please give the mom a hug for me and tell her she will see the baby one day

I agree with the poster that says that's morbid.

How about a tree/rosebush/vine to plant in his memory

birthdays are celebrating life not death...... that'd be 2 depressing for me

I think it's great that you are going. You are going for the family, to show your support. My son was stillborn at only 18 weeks and this year on his one year passing we made angel food cake, didn't have a get together, but made sure it was a special day. I bought us one of those willow figurines, and a special ornament for christmas. little things like that are nice, or a nice special keepsake box. just something that shows you care about them and what they have been through. it's hard when people completely ignore what happened, tho it isnt always easy to have it brought up all the time either.