LAST MARCH MY UNCLE CAME TO LIVE WITH MY FAMILY. WE GREW UP TOGETHER THERE IS ONLY 10 YRS BETWEEN US. AFTER 2 MONTHS HE HAD GAINED MY DAUGHTERS COMPLETE TRUST AND DEVOTION. HE TURNED HER AGAINST US AND HER FRIENDS TO ISOLATE HER. ALL THE TIME TELLING ME SHE HAD A LOT OF THINGS GOING ON IN HER LIFE BUT WAS TO SCARED TO TELL ME.SO HE MADE ME BELIEVE HE WAS SPENDING EXTRA TIME AND ATTENTION ON HER TO GET INFO FOR ME. THE WHOLE TIME HE WAS MOLESTING HER RIGHT UNDER OUR ROOF WHILE WE WERE AT WORK.SHE JUST GOT THE COURAGE TO TELL ME 3 DAYS AGO .HE IS IN JAIL BUT NOW SHE HAS HAD TO TELL HER STORY 10 TIMES AND HAS SAID SHE WISHED SHE NEVER TOLD. SHE IS EMBARRASSED AND MY FAMILY HAS TURNED AGAINST US. HOW DO I KEEP HER FROM GETTING DISCOURAGED DURING THE LEGAL PROCESS? I KEEP TELLING HER IM PROUD OF HER. AND HE HAD ALL THE CONTROL FOR SO LONG I NOW TRY TO LET HER MAKE THE DECISIONS TO LET HER FEEL SHE NOW HAS CONTROL OF HER LIFE.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 4:40 PM on Apr. 16, 2010 in General Parenting
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Answer by tyfry7496 at 10:13 PM on Apr. 16, 2010
Just keep telling her that you are proud that she told and tell her every chance you get that it is not her fault. Also tell her how he is stopping him from doing this to any other girls. Sometimes that's enough to make someone stronger. If your family wants to turn their backs on you do the same to them and when they try to come back tell them that you don't need people like them in your life. Counseling would be good too but make sure that she is comfortable with who she is seeing because if she isn't it won't help her.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:20 PM on Apr. 16, 2010
tyfry7496: Sexual abuse is something that you can relive no matter what happens. Even after the person is sentenced and sadly even after the person is dead. It never goes away. You just learn to deal with it and not let it control your life. I was molested by my mom's ex and I still remember it and it comes back at times that are unexpected and he is dead and has been dead for awhile now.
Answer by JAIRATRACI at 10:24 PM on Apr. 16, 2010