My husband has a way of putting me down in public all of the time. Especially in front of his family members. I don't know why. I tell him all the time that he does that, he says I'm being sensitive. But I'm not, he'll yell at me in, make fun of me and criticize me, ( not all at once) but still. It gets to me very much. I always tell him after each incident. He'll be like "I wasn't yelling I was angry and my voice was a bit loud". Or "I was just teasing", or "every time I say anything you get mad". This has been going on for 3 years. He's not understanding how upset he makes me. He's not getting it. Sometimes I cry and explain, then he lays off a bit n its back to the old habit. He's not mean, but he should be more sensitive to my feelings. I almost never do anything wrong and I'm a perfectionist and it really kills my self esteem. I never doubted myself before him. I'm supposed to feel better about myself with him right?Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 6:13 PM on Apr. 17, 2010
He obviously has some problems with in himself that he needs to work on. It makes him feel better about himself to belittle you, gives him power. I'm not sure what to tell you to do about it...but there is definitely an underlying problem that causes him to act like such an ass. Tell him if you don't go to counseling together, you will leave him? I dunno. I'm sorry. it can't be fun to go thru. I'm married to a perfectionist so I understand the defeat you must feel when this happens.
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Answer by NannyB. at 7:53 PM on Apr. 17, 2010
I lived with that and it changed the second I acted the same way he did it only took a couple of times before he stopped he never said anything again when I did it right back to him. do it and do it louder it will stop as soon as you do not cry about it anymore I found out that just fuelled mine. Let your mind work open your mouth and let it fly think of trash talking like a guy and give it the old college try. It will stop.
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