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My husband wants me to get a full time job and I don't want too. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

I substitute teach during the school year and I only work 2-4 days a week, making $100 a day. I look forward to spending time with my kids every summer and my husband wants me to take a full time job at his bank working 9-5. I know that we could use the money, but I would rather have my husband sell his boat, convertable and race hourses, so that I could stay home with the children and take them places like I do every year. If I do work I know my kids are going to be stuck home all summer long playing video games and watching tv, which would really bother me. Do you think I'm being selfish?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 7:37 PM on Apr. 17, 2010 in Money & Work

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  • I don't think you're selfish. I think your husband's expensive and unnecessary habits need to go.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:39 PM on Apr. 17, 2010

  • no i think time with your kids is really important. and ya, expensive unnecessary habits need to go!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:45 PM on Apr. 17, 2010

  • I think your husband needs to look more at the benefit of the kids rather than his wallet
    Deathlilly

    Answer by Deathlilly at 7:45 PM on Apr. 17, 2010

  • No, I think you just want to make sure that the kids are being well taken care of and getting physical activity instead of just watching television and playing video games. I also think that you are helping out a little by substituting. If you two were having some real financial difficulties and it was hard for him to make ends meet as the sole provider of the family then I would say, yes get a job and help him out, but if you two are living a comfortable life with boats, convertibles, and race horses then maybe he should just allow you to do what you love and that's being a SAHM.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:45 PM on Apr. 17, 2010

  • what's the trade off...I wouldn't want my kids staying at home alone without either parent there.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:47 PM on Apr. 17, 2010

  • anon 47, my oldest son is 17
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:48 PM on Apr. 17, 2010

  • Can you start working after summer break? That's what I plan to do.
    Orionsgirl

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 7:55 PM on Apr. 17, 2010

  • orionsgirl, yes I can start working after summer break, that's what I do every year
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:58 PM on Apr. 17, 2010

  • OP, that's when they need you more. Older kids need attention too. STAY HOME! Good luck Momma!!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:59 PM on Apr. 17, 2010

  • No, I think you are doing the right thing. Raising your kids is more important than material things.
    Bethsunshine

    Answer by Bethsunshine at 8:39 PM on Apr. 17, 2010

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