Our youngest DD (11 months) was diagnosed with Polycystic Kidney Disease last month. It basically means that she will have a host of medical problems and will suffer end stage renal failure, requiring a transplant most likely before she is 10. It is a genetic disease which means that all future children will have either a 25% or 50% chance of having the disease or at least being a carrier.
The writing is pretty much on the wall that we won't try for more children because of this. I always wanted at least 3 kids, my husband wanted 5!
I really feel like I am mourning the loss of the children we would have had if not for this disease. It really makes me very sad sometimes. I try to tell myself I'll get over it, and that I have 2 beautiful children already.
Is it normal to feel like this? I know time heals all wounds but I never expected to feel this way.
Answer by karamille at 9:02 AM on Apr. 18, 2010
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Answer by Xynyth at 9:28 AM on Apr. 18, 2010
Thanks :) I feel ridiculous for being so sad for a hypothetical future.
It is OK to feel sad.... not only do you have the immediate medical issues to deal with, your idea of how your life would be has been completely thrown out the window! Mourning the un-born happens all the time. This even happens to women after they have their tubes tied!
Go easy on yourself.... you are in my thoughts and prayers today.
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