BMom was to sign the paperwork & decided to instead parent. The day before that on Monday, we picked BMom up from her home & took her to visit with DD in the hospital (9 wk preemie)...even visiting DD again (with BMom's okay) afterward. Although it's still hard to relive those days, it's old news.
What isn't old news is that we found out that 2 days before BMom was to sign & 1 day before we had our visit with her and DD, she called the agency saying she wanted to parent. According to BGma, they came to their house & tried to talk her into signing then, which she refused, saying she was sure she wanted to parent.
I'm having major anger & trust issues with the idea that on that day we visited with BMom, EVERYONE there knew we weren't getting DD, but yet we weren't told & we went and bonded more with DD...only to make it harder on us when we were eventually told.
Is this a normal thing to keep PAP's in the dark like this?
Answer by doodlebopfan at 5:20 PM on Apr. 18, 2010
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Answer by doodlebopfan at 10:35 AM on Apr. 19, 2010
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 1:22 PM on Apr. 19, 2010
Quoting AAK--Ummm...I think we crossed lines somewhere along the way Doodlebopfan...LOL. (snip) :-)
AAK, Hello??? Is this thing on?? OMGoodness! LOL! THANK YOU for clarifying this. I was reading that this was a failed adoption with a 2nd child.....So Sorry! My deepest sympathies to you for enduring my confusion....LOL!
OK, In that case......I'm still confused....somebody send me a PM...
Answer by doodlebopfan at 1:44 PM on Apr. 19, 2010
Answer by doodlebopfan at 11:32 PM on Apr. 20, 2010
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