My MIL want to visit me next week, she said she was coming this weekend but canceled because she is going to babysit her grandaughter, then she wants to come and visit with her GD. I have been very tired and frustrated this week and I feel like if she comes and visits (4 hr drive) I will be even more stresses because I always feel obligated to act like a maid when she is here. But im ive just been so TIRED, I have been hinting that she should just wait until we all go visit her in May, but she is just insisting. HOW DO I TELLL HER???
Asked by Anonymous at 11:53 AM on Apr. 18, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by LoriKeet at 11:57 AM on Apr. 18, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 11:56 AM on Apr. 18, 2010
It's your husband's mother and he should be involved in what should be done and what to tell his mother. If she doesn't get to visit often then she should be able to see her grandchildren. If it is just a few hours then there is no reason to deny her that. If she is planning on staying for days then it would be reasonable to consider her staying in a hotel depending on everyone's finances.
Almost all mothers are tired. It helps a lot to accept it and just do the best you can.
Answer by Gailll at 11:59 AM on Apr. 18, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 12:15 PM on Apr. 18, 2010
LIE - Say you won't be home.
Answer by KairisMama at 12:35 PM on Apr. 18, 2010
Answer by Ewadun at 12:36 PM on Apr. 18, 2010
Ewadun and Gailll...
I agree with them both. The older I get the more I realise that it is not all about me and what I want when it comes to grandparents. I agree with telling her you have had a bad week and are not up to playing the hostest with the mostest, but if she still wants to visit it is fine. She may be happy to help you out with getting what you need done, or she may be happy sitting in your messy house. She wants to see the kids and that is the most important thing.
Big hugs to you, I have been where you are and know it is a hard spot. But I have learned it is easier and wiser to give in sometimes.
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 1:07 PM on Apr. 18, 2010
Answer by staciandababy at 2:35 PM on Apr. 18, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 2:48 PM on Apr. 18, 2010
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