Toddlers and 2-year-olds are learning to think. They have opinions and ideas. They want to do things their own way. They have learned how to say no, and they can physically resist what they don't want. But they are still too young to understand how their actions affect others, to see danger, and to think before they act.
It is important for children to become independent. We want them to grow up to follow their own ideas. But we must keep children safe. We also must teach them to consider the needs of others, to mind parents about important things, and to say no in acceptable ways.
Children can resist in different ways. As your child becomes more independent, she or he may say no by doing any or all of these things:
Become disagreeable and refuse your request
Do the opposite of what you want
Reject you and go to someone else
at 3:18 PM on Apr. 19, 2010