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My husband and I have been married now for almost 3 years. After we got married, (4 months to be exact), we got pregnant with our son. I had a horrible pregnancy and we rarely had sex. Our sex life before we got pregnant was ok, but nothing too spectacular. It seems like its always about him and more recently it has gotten worse. We rarely have sex and I can honestly say that I've never had an orgasm with him. I don't know how to talk to him about this situation because I'd really like to spice our sex life up. How do I talk to him without hurting his feelings?Answer Question
Answer by MPW2005 at 10:55 PM on Apr. 19, 2010
Answer by Nynne at 10:58 PM on Apr. 19, 2010
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Answer by Ewadun at 11:01 PM on Apr. 19, 2010
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Answer by admckenzie at 12:04 AM on Apr. 20, 2010
The problem with "vibrators" is that you can become desensitized and no human can reach the speeds that it can. It's great for a quick fix but not as a solution for your problem. Men are more visual than we are. I got the book "The Joy of Sex" and shared that with my hubby. I suggested "Why don't we try this or that?" he was skeptical at first, but couldn't beat the laughter it generated. My first orgasm was one I gave myself and I thought "Whoa, I should have this feeling all the time" and it gave me the courage to talk with him about it. The whole world looks better after a hard orgasm versus a soft orgasm. There is a BIG difference. Men know this. Go get yours, girl....
Answer by Ewadun at 10:03 AM on Apr. 20, 2010