For months now my son thinks it is funny to bang his head on things. Sometimes he hits & bites my, too. I have been putting him in time-out for biting. One minute in his room. His is always really sweet afterwards.
Now he likes to jump off the couch head first. He is really rough on himself, and it scares the shit outta me! What's a mother to do???
I mainly want to know what to do about his head banging. Its been going on for about 4 months. He is 18 months. Any advice is welcome.
Answer by Ati_13 at 1:51 PM on Apr. 20, 2010
head banging is almost always a way of calming, especially if the child finds a rhythm in the act. think of it like rocking. it's also very typical behavior for a child who has autism. "self mutilation" and the "no fear" behavior are also autistic symptoms.
Answer by Anonymous at 1:52 PM on Apr. 20, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 1:54 PM on Apr. 20, 2010
Get him a soft helmet so he doesn't hurt himself.
This is a sign of bigger things going on. Time-outs are one of the Top 10 stupid parenting ideas ever. As you have found it doesn't stop bad behavior in the long run, it doesn't teach good behavior, and he is learning to manipulate you! Thats what the acting all sweet afterwards is all about. When you send an 18 month old away from you what you are doing is taking yourself away.
I recommend that you stop all forms of punishment. You can discipline, raise up a child to have excellent behavior without punishment. I recommend the book Love & Limits by Elizabeth Crary. She has a website called Star Parenting. She uses problem avoidance and problem solving techniques.
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