Long story short, my husband has recently left our family and moved out for the 4th time in 16 yrs. He has been gone less than a month and has already decided (as always) that he made a mistake. We have had many ups and downs over the yrs, some of which have been very painful and included me making some very hard choices and sacrifices. Each time he has left, his behavior has been spiteful, vengeful, and just down right wrong, i.e., stolen money from our savings, left me with past due bills, cleared out the business acct and opened a new one so I couldn't get access, etc., yet I still took him back because of my kids. I have always put them and their needs first. While I do love him, he is the father of my kids, I am pretty sure that I am not in love with him. He wants to come home, my kids want him to come home and in the past when he returns he is always on his best behavior, but it does not last and we end up here.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:14 PM on Apr. 21, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by missbreezy214 at 6:20 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 6:26 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
You really have to learn to put yourself first. The marriage is about you two not the kids. You can still be a good mother without having a husband. He is failing your miserably. You shouldn't have to put up with that behavior. You gave him multiple chances and the kids need emotional stability in their life. I believe that they'd be better off if you two were happy. If you can work it out and know that he will not do it again maybe you should work on it. But if you feel he's going to repeat his old ways again you should consider moving on so that you can have some peace in your life and maybe even future happiness with someone who will actually be faithful and respectful to you always.
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