my daughter is not my husbands bio dad. bio dad is in the picture and always will be. we want my husband to adopt her but bio dad hasn't agreed to this yet. anyway i have stated that i would add my husbands new name to her orginal last name and my husband says he doesn't want her dads name anywhere in her name. i feel that taking it away from her, is kinda saying she has no connection to who she really is and who her father really is. although my husband is more a father then he is by being there, always. it's not as if we have to use his name it would just show on her birth certificate when that gets changed. am i wrong? i understand how he feels but i don't want to take away from my daughter and i think it's better for my daughter to have that connection and i think husband is being selfsh in his feelings about it. it should be about her not him. opinions pleaseAnswer Question
Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 9:15 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 9:20 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
I completely agree with you. Your hubby is being very selfish and taking his feelings for your ex out in a way on your DD. Which is wrong in my eyes. My sons father pass away when he was 3 months old and when I re-married I dropped his first name and made his fathers last name his middle name cause it is a name (Phillip) So ya his is pass away, but it a little different in your situation but to you and your hubby her bio-father is not there or around so he is in a sense pass away. I hope you can understand where I am coming from or thinking and looking at your situation you need to make the best and fairest decision for your child cause no matter what at the end of the day your DD is what matters and needs to come first no matter what.
Answer by Anonymous at 9:21 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 9:24 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
Answer by melody77 at 9:28 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 9:31 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 9:33 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
Answer by melody77 at 10:28 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:30 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
her bio dad doesn't do anything more then just his other wkends and pays his child support.
So, he's doing everything he's obligated to do and everything he's legally entitled to and that's somehow not good enough?
Answer by Avarah at 10:33 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
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