DH and I are very serious about adopting in the future. We have 3 biological children, and we're not at all worried about getting a "perfect white newborn" like so many couples out there. We are hoping to adopt a child (possibly siblings) under age 5, who has no hope of returning home, and might otherwise end up in foster care. DH could care less about the color of a child's skin, but I do. I'm not AT ALL racist. I just think that a child (who has already been through so much in such a short little life) has the right to conseal from his peers the fact that he is adopted, if he so chooses. Obviously this wouldn't be an option for a child of a different race. I need thoughts on this. Please don't bash. I'll clarify once more that I AM NOT AT ALL RACIST, I just want to give a child a loving family and a home that feels right to that child. I don't want him to feel like he doesn't belong.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:13 PM on Apr. 21, 2010 in Adoption
Answer by doodlebopfan at 9:15 AM on Apr. 22, 2010
Keep doing your homework and take the parenting classes. I'm gonna respect your no bash request and just move on.
Answer by Anonymous at 11:27 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
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Answer by Adelicious at 11:51 PM on Apr. 21, 2010
i don't know why anyone who actually read this would bash you for it. i can't speak from experience, but i think you are right to feel the way you do, and it's obvious to me that the benefit of the child is the only thing behind your logic. it might be best for you to talk to someone who was adopted by a family of a different race. good luck and good for you for wanting to adopt an older child! i hope you find the perfect son or daughter to add to your family!
Answer by bestmommyeber at 12:07 AM on Apr. 22, 2010
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