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how to help a 2 year old adjust to his new sibling?

i have a 2 year old boy, who has always been a happy go lucky kind of kid. we just had a new baby (she is now 5 weeks old). at first he adjusted just fine. he could care less she was even here, and shows many nurturing behaviors. now, however, things have changed. he still is nice to her and nurturing, but he is demonstrating some horrible terrible two's behavior. needs to get his way, always going for things that mommy says no to. it is like he is setting himself up to fail. how do i help him adjust?

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Asked by susanjpt at 8:45 AM on Apr. 23, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • The most important thing we do to manage our big girl's behavior with regards to the little one (they're only 15 months apart and are now 19 months and almost three years old) is to enlist her "help" with the little one. Early on, that meant asking her to go get a toy for her little sister, go bring mommy her burp cloth, sing her a song... Now it's things like showing her little sister how big girls eat their vegetables, helping remind her to use the potty, etc. As soon as she has a responsibility, she takes on this super-cute big sister personal, holds her sister's hand... And it's great, too, because when she's being like that, her little sis will do whatever she says (so if no one is eating vegetables, and I ask big sis for a demonstration, she does it and her little sis copies). It's great! Another important thing is to remind your big boy that he's still your baby.You're still his mommy and he gets cuddles, too.

    Answer by EmilySusan at 9:46 AM on Apr. 23, 2010

  • But I must add that some of the behavior you're seeing might be totally independent of the new family dynamic. Unfortunately this is the age where a perfect angel can start showing his demonic side :) Give him either/or choices where both options are acceptable to you -- it will make him feel like he has some control over his world. Good luck to you all.

    Answer by EmilySusan at 9:48 AM on Apr. 23, 2010

  • Also, you could give him little jobs to do to help you with the baby. Make him apart of everything you and the baby are doing..

    Answer by Novmeber2006 at 11:33 AM on Apr. 23, 2010

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