I have a friend who is searching for her family. She went back to her agency for help obtaing info. My state, Maryland, has an intermediary program.
The sw at the agency released a several page letter (edited to blackout identifying info) and a photo of the adoptees Mother and sister to the adoptee.
The Mother had clearly wanted her adopted daughter to be able to obtain info to locate her. She left addresses, phone numbers for herself and the adoptees grandparents in the letter. She specifically states in the letter to release the info to her daughter
The agency wants the adoptee to pay their fee to search and contact the Mother. IMHO, this is blackmail! Sorry, but you must pay to get this info- and we will decide how to best contact your mother on your behalf. You are a child, and are not capable of communication with your family on your own!
I am adopted and I am not anti-adoption. But I have a huge problem with this Why should I have to pay to get information that should belong to me? For me the issue is so much bigger then just the want for contact What about my medical history? I just think I am entitled to the same rights as a non adopted person to be able to have information without paying for.
Answer by BlessedFamily8 at 5:54 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by adopteeme at 5:55 AM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by confused969 at 9:07 AM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:44 AM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by BlooBird at 10:47 AM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by Suzy_Sunshine at 1:11 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
I agree with BlooBird. I think it's sick and outrageous. I always encourage anyone in reunion to get the agency out of their lives ASAP. Actually I encourage that with open adoptions too. Openness should mean that the adoptive family and the birth family have direct contact. In my open adoption I wasn't getting my letters but amom had sent them to the agency. We dumped them and contacted each other directly, the adoption never closed.
Can I hazard a guess....Gladney??
Answer by onethentwins at 3:11 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
No onethen, not Gladney this time. Â It's The infamous secret keepers-- Catholic Charities
Â Suzy, anti-adoption? How 'bout just PRO-family! ;)Â
you say: "The agency does not have the legal right to disclose the information even if the birth parent included contact information in the letters she left with the agency."
Â She not only left contact info.....but wording that the adoptee had her permission to obtain that info, and that she WANTED to be found. How much clearer could that be? It's a head game!! And the searching party is charged a fee to 'play'.Â IF they treated us asÂ Adults~ they would know we CANÂ negotiateÂ our ownÂ relationships without having to ask permission/ and orÂ pay a feeÂ from anyone to do so!!!
Answer by adopteeme at 4:32 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by Suzy_Sunshine at 6:56 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by confused969 at 8:33 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
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