I'm reading Adopting a Child who Hurts. Learning a bit about kids who have been neglected or abused during their formative years.
My youngest is 4 so my hubby and I don't want to mix up the birth order- we want to bring a child in younger than our 4 year old. Does anyone have any experience with infant-3 years?
Answer by matthewscandi at 9:36 AM on Apr. 25, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 1:08 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
We brought our daughter home at 18months. She never lived with her mom. She went from the hospital to a foster home that took kids with medical needs. It took 4 years to make her adoption final. We also had placement of a newborn. He was with us one year and then we had to give him back. The state thought they had a solid case against his mom but they where wrong. We asked for ages 3 and under but our licence was for 7 and under. You end up having final say in any child they present to you. So you don't need to feel like just because they offered one you have to say yes. There is so much involved in what types of issues each child has and their needs. you have to know how much you can handle. But definitely look into attachment disorders and the types of problems children have with drug and alcohol exposure. Most of this should be covered in your classes.
Answer by BlooBird at 2:37 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by txdaniella at 7:41 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by matthewscandi at 9:04 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by matthewscandi at 9:05 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
You usually don't have to worry about a child going back. When it's a foster adopt situation they don't present a child until they know the case is going to terminate the parental rights. What happened to us was not par for the course. I think they say it only happens 2% of the time. And we never had any issues with RAD in our DD. But she does have some issues due to her mothers drug abuse and because she was a micro-preemie. (ADD, Asthma, Allergies, feeding issues, sensory integration disorder)
Answer by BlooBird at 10:48 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by txdaniella at 11:05 PM on Apr. 24, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:36 AM on Apr. 26, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:45 AM on Apr. 26, 2010