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I am just looking for a little reassurance as my little sweet 15 month old Ellie went from angel to well.... something not so angelic overnight.
She is screaming at the top of her lungs, throwing tantrums for any reason, no medical reason. All the professionals say ignore it, but do the professionals prescribe the medications the mommies need to take to deal with it? Are we really supposed to just ignore the toddlers of terror?
Answer by kjrn79 at 10:41 AM on Apr. 25, 2010
Answer by kjrn79 at 10:43 AM on Apr. 25, 2010
Answer by neebug3766 at 10:48 AM on Apr. 25, 2010
Yes you ignore it, in the sense that you don't feed into it. I use time out with my 2 year old, it took a little bit for her to get it but she did. It helps some. A lot of talking on her terms as to what she is feeling and what she can do or say instead. Like my 2 yo hits my 5 yo, so I told her to tell the 5 yo what she doesn't like and gave examples(repeating this for 2 weeks). So this morning the 5yo was gently poking the 2 yo. The 2 yo said no poke, the 5 yo ignored her, the 2 yo hit her. They both went to time out. And I went over it with both of them again. I am hoping by the end of the year they will get it.
Then when she is behaving the way you want, tell her and reward her with love. You will be amazed at how much positive reinforcement will do. I use in truck loads with my girls. At least when they are feed and have had a good sleep it does wonders. And so nice when the corporate, it gives me hope.
Answer by DevilInPigtails at 11:22 AM on Apr. 25, 2010
What I did when my daughter went from angel to demon over night at 14 months... I bought a full size playpen. I put it in the formal dining room since we rarely eat in there. Every time she started, no matter what the offense was, I picked her up with out saying a word, put her in the playpen and walked away. It took 2 weeks for her to realize that it was no fun anymore. She wasn't getting a reaction from me or anyone else. So as soon as her audience disappeared, the fun was gone. It didn't stop the fits completely, but it GREATLY changed them. They went form lasting an hour to a few minutes at most. She's 3 now and understands the concept of time out. I bought a timer and she knows when she hears it ringing she can get up. i don't let the time start until she's calm either. On occasion, if the situation warrants, she does get a spanking. A combo of these things worked well for us, but every child is different.
Answer by momjoy1027 at 11:26 AM on Apr. 25, 2010
Answer by momofryan07 at 2:59 PM on Apr. 25, 2010