I posted a question about help getting my son to listen to me, or how to appropriately punish him. I was surprised to see that all of my 10 responses suggested spanking or time outs. Their suggestions were to hold him down for a few minutes, or put him in his crib. I do not agree with those suggestions, I honestly don't think he would understand why I was forcefully holding him, and putting him in his crib would make it a negative place for him. I'm not against spanking, if the child is old enough to understand the punishment AND responds to it. How many of you agree with time outs for this young age, or spanking?
I know we've entered the terrible twos, that's for sure....but I NEVER want my frustration to come through when I punish him, I want him to learn from his actions and most importantly, from mine.
Thanks for taking the time!
Answer by ThrivingMom at 8:45 AM on Apr. 26, 2010
Answer by mom_to_kenzie at 9:16 AM on Apr. 26, 2010
Answer by grace2joy at 9:18 AM on Apr. 26, 2010
Answer by motherofhope98 at 9:26 AM on Apr. 26, 2010
Answer by momofryan07 at 10:01 AM on Apr. 26, 2010
Answer by Julians_Momma at 10:13 AM on Apr. 26, 2010
Timeouts done correctly are definitely effective for a 23 month old. I started them with my twins at 17 months, and within 2 weeks they stopped throwing things from their highchairs. We never held them down, but we did use their cribs as a safe place to put them at that age. I was concerned that using their cribs might have a negative effect on sleeping, but it didn't. If you don't want to use the crib you can have a designated spot that you put your child, and then just pick him up and put him back repeatedly until he stays. If you want some ideas for really good and effective discipline techniques that are very positive, check out Love and Logic. I have also heard very good reviews of 1-2-3 Magic, but I have no experience with it.
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 10:14 AM on Apr. 26, 2010
Answer by kimberlyinberea at 10:22 AM on Apr. 26, 2010
Answer by KatieP. at 10:56 AM on Apr. 26, 2010
Answer by KatieP. at 11:01 AM on Apr. 26, 2010