Ok...here is the deal. I have been with my bf for over a year. I have 2 kids ages 5 and 7. He has a son from his previous marrigae who is 6. He and his ex share joint custody, we get him one week, she gets him one week. I have my kids all the time.
His ex is the sister of my bf's brother which means that she attends every single family function there is. Christmas, Easter, birthday parties, you name it she is there. I can deal with most of that.But now she has a new baby from a guy who is not around and lives with my bf's mom who cares for the baby and considers it her grandchild. I am pregnant with his child and don't feel like she or anyone else in his family care about that as much as they care about his ex. I don't feel like they want to make room for me in their lives unless I'm friends with his ex. I don't like her or the choices she makes and I can't understand why his mom would continuously pick her over me. HELP!
Asked by Anonymous at 10:43 AM on Apr. 26, 2010 in Relationships
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Answer by ohwrite at 11:47 AM on Apr. 26, 2010
Yes, you should be civil. Yes, you should continue to extend yourself even though no one seems to care. Yes, you should attend functions, but not because of the message it may send if you don't, but because it's the right thing to do.
With that said...Regardless of whether he understands or sees it or not, your BF should consider your feelings above everyone else's and should defend and protect you, ESPECIALLY to his family. Also, the choices she makes DO matter, if they insist on involving her in a family she is no longer a part of, then she will have access to your children. It is of utmost importance that you make sure the adults in your children's lives are not of questionable character.
Answer by Anonymous at 12:16 PM on Apr. 26, 2010
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