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Boring relationship???? HELP...

What would cause a boyfriend to say that the relationship is boring and what can I do about it to make it better? It completely blindsided me when he said this.... We just found out that we are expecting we have three other kids one his one mine and one ours and we just bought a new car and redid our house... boring??

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 2:18 PM on Apr. 26, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Ask him. Only he can tell you what he means by "boring". It might be that he is saying he wants more stimulating conversation...or he might want you two to go out more often....who knows? Only he does. Talk to him, tell him you want to know what he means, and ask him for ideas on what you BOTH (b/c it is a two way street, no one person is responsible for it being a certain way) can do to make things better.
    tropicalmama

    Answer by tropicalmama at 2:25 PM on Apr. 26, 2010

  • Make sure tha you talk to him some more and find out why he thinks it has gotten boring and then ask him how he thinks the relationship can be spiced up. Maybe he is referring to love life or he may just be referring to other parts of the relationship. Just remember to keep and open mind and ear and both of you need to be honest. Remember that honestydoesn't mean you have to be mean or nasty when you are alking to them. Good luck and I hope everything works out so that you are both happy!
    gurka1967

    Answer by gurka1967 at 2:31 PM on Apr. 26, 2010

  • he may not feel as satisfied with the whole family thing. they may be enough for you but maybe he is looking for something outside of kids and responsibilities. you both deserve to cut loose every now and then and have some fun. go out to a show or something.

    IzzeAddy

    Answer by IzzeAddy at 3:05 PM on Apr. 26, 2010

  • throw him for a loop, get a sitter one night (dont tell him) talk to one of his friends that you can trust, have his friend take him out for a bit once hes gone, send the kids away, put on a sexy outfit, and light a buttload of candles in the bedroom, maybe a trail of them from the front door to the bedroom (depending how far that is lol) sprinkle rose pedals on the bed, think of the stuff that would just make you as a female melt, youd be surprised i had an ex who i did this for when things got a little dull i had his co workers calling me for weeks asking how they could get their wives and girlfriends to do this for them, im talking he stopped before attacking me lol and took pics of the room!! (there were over 100 candles lit and like 10 from the front door to the bedroom) i had his friend call me when they were getting ready to leave so i could lite the candles :)
    mommie2twogirls

    Answer by mommie2twogirls at 3:23 PM on Apr. 26, 2010

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