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if a first date don't go well but he thinks so...how do you break it of that he doesn't become obsessed??

I met this guy online and we have our first date on sat...but now i am getting vibes that he isn't for me but i am not sure if this is predate jitters....plus my family isn't sure about him(he has a facebook and they don't like what they see) but if i am not interested after our date how do i end the date?? we are just meeting for Italian ice for an hour until he has to go to work...

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 2:56 PM on Apr. 28, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Depending on why you feel reluctant to go out with him....i would cancel before even going. You don't say what sort of vibe you are getting, but we as women don't listen to our gut/intuition nearly enough.
    inkydorei

    Answer by inkydorei at 7:02 PM on Apr. 28, 2010

  • while you are with him. just be honest. dont be mean but tell him you just dont see it going anywhere.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:00 PM on Apr. 28, 2010

  • I usually go for brunch on a first date, not dinner. Its just less formal and if you dont feel comfortable you can say you have a previous engagement to go to and get out of the date a lot faster then committing to the whole Saturday evening situation. If you dont connect your not responsible for a long drawn out follow up with him, if you dont connect, you dont connect. If he asks for another date and your not that into him, dont commit to another date...
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:01 PM on Apr. 28, 2010

  • Well, going for an Italian ice is shorter than even brunch so that's good if you get a weird vibe; you won't be with him too long. Perhaps during conversation, casually let him know that you don't think you're compatible or you're not looking for anything further. You'll have to word it based on how you think he'll take it though. Best wishes.
    rio_burb

    Answer by rio_burb at 3:28 PM on Apr. 28, 2010

  • Just be honest with him. The sooner the better. The longer you wait, the more obsessed he will become and you certainly don't want that. Just be careful how you say it. Be nice, but be firm, not leaving room for any doubt.
    steponme2

    Answer by steponme2 at 5:50 PM on Apr. 28, 2010

  • if you are worried about him becoming obsessed, then you have to be blunt. no beating around the bush at all. it may be difficult, and may seem harsh, but it is the only way. if you leave them with one bit of hope, they will cling to that...and not really hear what you are saying.
    happy2bmom25

    Answer by happy2bmom25 at 6:52 PM on Apr. 28, 2010

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