So my husband and I are on the rocks. We have a child together and since I was 14 wks pregnant he was pretty abusive to me, (he took my arm and held it across my back by my opposite shoulder leading to a ligament tear) it progressed to hair pulling, and general man handling and nipple abuse.
We went to marriage counseling and the physical abuse stopped, but he seems to have had a smaller and smaller tolerance for the little things like me correcting him. Recently, he left and went to live with his friend in a city about 5 hours away and I moved in with my family and our baby. A couple days ago I found out he had cheated on me with this slut to say the least. He was honest with me about it, and said she was nothing to him, just sex and that he loved me, but thought our relationship was in the toilet. This has been my one true love for 14 years, since I was 16. We've always had a pretty ok relationship, but do you think I'll be able to trust him again?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:54 AM on Jun. 27, 2008 in Relationships
Answer by ReneeK3 at 10:59 AM on Jun. 27, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 11:00 AM on Jun. 27, 2008
Do I love myself? Am I a unique and wonderful person? Am I a good mother to my child? Do I contribute goodness to others? DO I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY? If you have answered "Yes" to most of these questions, your journey should take you on a path of enlightment for you and your child. Abuse of any sort is unacceptable from any person you encounter. If you can tolerate the abuse and wake up the next morning and smile at yourself in the mirror without the pain and agony, then continue with the abuse. If it hurts so badly, that you are in a constant miserable state of mind and heart, change your thinking and encourage yourself of all your good qualities you possess. Take that encouragement to build a life for you and the lil' one. When you accept all the good in yourself and walk that journey, you will not have a need to wonder if you should trust your husband.
I believe you CAN DO IT!!!
Answer by mymissingmother at 1:02 PM on Jun. 27, 2008
Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 1:42 PM on Jun. 27, 2008
Answer by hiddenpoet at 2:01 PM on Jun. 27, 2008
Answer by Teachermom01 at 3:21 PM on Jun. 27, 2008
Answer by manna1qd at 3:40 PM on Jun. 27, 2008
Answer by KAYOCHOA at 3:42 PM on Jun. 27, 2008
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