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my 19 yr old son, what to do?

he does some of the most stupied things & always is about a 1/4 in from going to jail, he tries to act so tough but when it comes down to the line he cries, we have totally ran out of ideas with him i need help!

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 7:59 AM on Apr. 29, 2010 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • What kinds of things is he doing? I'm around his age (just about 21) so I can probably relate to what he's going through (except I'm not doing anything to get in trouble lol, I'm a responsible mommy) But I need to know what kinds of things he is doing if you want my help. Is he doing drugs? Getting into fights? Drinking too much? You need to be more specific.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:01 AM on Apr. 29, 2010

  • He needs to sit on some blisters....let him feel to consiquence of his actions and mabye he'll change his mind about some of the things he's doing.
    CaseyErin

    Answer by CaseyErin at 8:05 AM on Apr. 29, 2010

  • he's drinking, smokin pot, fighting with anyone who "disrespects" him he kicked a guy in the nuts last night because the guy called him a "cracker" get real i don't see 1 black kid where we live going up to about 6 white guys that have been drinking & yelling cracker! so here comes the law simple assult... he's killing us the cops have been here twice this month! he runs into the wood behind the house & they can't find him. then i have to get him home & his dad takes him to the ps & tries to keep him out of jail.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:08 AM on Apr. 29, 2010

  • He's 19!!! It's time to stop helping him and kick him out of the house! He might very well do better to suffer (to the full extent) the consequences of his actions than to keep getting away with his horrible choices!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:12 AM on Apr. 29, 2010

  • his choices are defenintly horrable, if we kick him out hows he gonna live? robbing stores? gun fights? he turned 19 the 6th of this month.he's a kid,

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:17 AM on Apr. 29, 2010

  • He's a big boy- he needs to be responsible for his own actions. You've obviously helped him out of some sticky situations already- STOP. You're enabling him to not grow past this. This will continue as long as you let it, and longer, especially if you continue to enforce these bad habits by keeping him out of trouble. Let the kid to spend some time in jail before he lands himself in prison.
    IrishMommaC

    Answer by IrishMommaC at 8:19 AM on Apr. 29, 2010

  • i know,,,,tough love is the answer here i just don't know how to do it.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:25 AM on Apr. 29, 2010

  • maybe you should of whooped his ass more when he was younger..i know its too late for that though. let him do his time, thats all.
    shay1130

    Answer by shay1130 at 8:30 AM on Apr. 29, 2010

  • If you enable him to act this way, he'll be doing the same or worse this time next year. Doing what's best isn't always doing what is easy. It will be rough for the both of you, but you are still his Mama and you owe it to him.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:30 AM on Apr. 29, 2010

  • Of course he's a kid. You never allowed him to grow up and take responsibility for his actions. So now your asking what can you do? Let him fall on his face. Don't help him. Even turn him in. And while your at it. If he has a car that he paid for pack up his things that he paid for put them in his car, change the locks on your house and say Bye- bye this your home unless you can get one of your friends to let you live with them. If he doesn't have a car. Drop him off at the nearest homeless shelter. If you don't stand up now he will take away your life. You won't be able to retire and enjoy it. Because he drain all your resources. I've seen people lose their homes and have to work into their 70's because of spoiled rotten brats that they just keep bailing out.

    oldermomof5

    Answer by oldermomof5 at 8:30 AM on Apr. 29, 2010

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