My sil is wealthy moved out of state. When her granchild had her christening I attended with my son at a cost of over 500 dollars with air fare.In the meantime my sil has attended a bar mitzvah for a work associate who attended her daughter's wedding.Now my son is having his confirmation and she tells me that she was trying to work something out with her work from home job but she can not afford it becuse the trip is expensive. Wht a crock she is so rich she lives in a million and 1/2 dollar home. She atends events for her side of the family but of course I get the shaft. She is really at odds with the god parent that my son chose for the confirmation. SO that is thr real reason but to tell me that I can't afford escuse is so lame and so fake, I can not believe it. What should I say to her , because I want to put her in her place. Mind you I know for over 30 years. I am speechless.....
Asked by Anonymous at 9:12 AM on Apr. 29, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by wildflowers25 at 10:52 AM on Apr. 29, 2010
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Answer by Anonymous at 9:37 AM on Apr. 29, 2010
First of all the more you have $$$$, The more debt you have. I think in this economy that the money crunch has hit even the wealthiest. Aside from that, she is probably upset that she was not chosen a the Godmother. But the choice has been made. You should say that you would be "very disappointed" if she does not attend. That's it. Any words you say in anger will just come back to you. She will be the one to carry that burden if she does not come for the rest of her life, everytime she sees your Son. Guilt is worse than anything you could say. AND she WILL feel GUILTY about it if she does not attend. Act disappointed but that you do not care either way. I was told once which is very true, "The One who has the most power cares the least." I am speaking from experience and I would be Pissed too but hold it together and focus on the Very Special Day. :)
Answer by Anonymous at 9:38 AM on Apr. 29, 2010
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Answer by whiteroses82 at 9:51 AM on Apr. 29, 2010
Answer by whiteroses82 at 9:52 AM on Apr. 29, 2010
If you have invested in a very expensive home with in the past few years and suddenly are not continually making the same salary as prior to the homes purchase. Than you are in debt. That is WHAT has happened to the economy. ****That is why we are in a recession. Obviously if you had 1.5 million cash to purchase a home then you may not have debt but honestly this rarely happens. Here in NY, a 1.5 million dollar home also has approx $20,000+ a year in property taxes. Try to crack that nut!
Answer by Anonymous at 10:06 AM on Apr. 29, 2010