I have two younger siblings and a SIL. I'm jealous because they all get tons of financial help from their parents. They are all totally irresponsible with their money, or are just not making any (my brother hasn't worked in 2 years and can't support his daughter... he's still living at home with my mom). My SIL just took $3000 from her mom to pay off the debt she incurred on BidRay buying crap she didn't need.
I wouldn't be jealous if it weren't for the fact that we are in some desperate financial situations through no fault of our own, and no one can help us, because they have to support our siblings. I'm pregnant, all we need for this baby is a carseat and some diapers (we cloth diaper to save money) and I have no idea how we're going to get them.
I feel like irresponsibility has been rewarded and because we have always supported ourselves, we're being punished. How awful am I?
Asked by Anonymous at 4:50 PM on Apr. 30, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by wildflowers25 at 5:10 PM on Apr. 30, 2010
Answer by SaraP1989 at 4:52 PM on Apr. 30, 2010
You can feel jealous or angry about it or you can let go of those feelings and just worry about yourself. If you are pregnant you shouldn't be expecting help from family. You should have figured out how you are going to support your baby. You need to take responsibility. If you can't even figure out how to get a car seat and diapers you may want to look into adoption.
You call hospitals and tell them you need a car seat. You put an ad on craigslist. You get on a bus and go to yard sales and buy one for $5. You call non-profit agencies that help pregnant moms or the homeless and ask. You ask at WIC if they know how to get one. You need to breastfeed, WIC does not give enough formula.
Answer by Gailll at 4:55 PM on Apr. 30, 2010
You can go to La Leche League meetings for free. If you don't have transportation someone may be able to give you a ride. Moms there will know how to get one. Someone at the LLL meeting may have one their baby has outgrown.
Many cities have diaper banks where you can get free diapers. You can ask at WIC or your health department. They give disposable diapers. They have this long list of why disposable and not cloth. If you want cloth LLL moms may know where to get some.
Stop thinking about yourself and take action.
Answer by Gailll at 5:00 PM on Apr. 30, 2010
Answer by heatheryn at 5:02 PM on Apr. 30, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 5:04 PM on Apr. 30, 2010
Answer by wildflowers25 at 5:11 PM on Apr. 30, 2010
Answer by SaraP1989 at 5:12 PM on Apr. 30, 2010
Answer by Bellarose0212 at 5:21 PM on Apr. 30, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 5:22 PM on Apr. 30, 2010
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