"Screw the Roses, Send Me The Thorns" by Philip Miller and Molly Devon is a good place to start, especially if your dh isn't comfy with the idea
google "BDSM munches" for your area. These are meetings that are held in public places (restaurants, etc) that can give you more info about the lifestyle in a safe no pressure atmosphere. There is NO playing or scening at these meetings.
Many fetish clubs are member only or invite only. If that's what you are interested in, a munch is the place to make connections.
Also google "BDSM checklists".....will help you and hubby communicate about your likes/dislikes as well as things you might be interested in. Be forewarned tho, some of those lists are ALL inclusive, and some of the choices will make you think "what the hell??!!"
at 8:58 PM on Apr. 30, 2010