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I feel like I'm a bad person... Am I in the wrong?

I have lamaze this Saturday, but I wont have anyone to watch my DS, so DH would have to miss the class to watch our DS. My mom asked me why I don't get her SO to watch DS instead. They have been together since I was 7 YO. I told her no, DH will watch him instead. She said it would really hurt his feelings if I did not trust him to watch my DS. The thing is I don't feel comfortable with him alone with my DS. I don't know why, but i get a strange feeling when I think about letting him watch DS. I don't trust him. There is just something not right with him. But I feel bad for thinking that way. DS knows this guy as grandpa. IDK.. I don't even let my DS stay over there with out me , because I don't trust the situation, and my mom thinks her SO is just fine with being left alone with my DS. I don't know what to do? Do I ignore my feelings so I don't hurt anyone elses feelings?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 5:28 PM on Apr. 30, 2010 in General Parenting

Answers (27)
  • NO, trust your instincts. ALWAYS. Better safe than sorry.
    LittleWeloosMom

    Answer by LittleWeloosMom at 5:31 PM on Apr. 30, 2010

  • Thanks
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:32 PM on Apr. 30, 2010

  • Always trust your instincts. There's a reason you don't feel comfortable. Fuck how anyone else feels, its your kid and your responsibility to protect him. Most child molesters are people you know.

    Nyx7

    Answer by Nyx7 at 5:32 PM on Apr. 30, 2010

  • Too bad if he'll feel bad.. Go with your gut mommy.. !!!!
    maxsmom11807

    Answer by maxsmom11807 at 5:33 PM on Apr. 30, 2010

  • You are right Nyx7.... I was just thinking it was all in my head - and it still could be- but I don't like the way he looks at my DS. I don't like the way he hugs him. IDK why? Growing up he has never done anything to me. But there is something about him that is creepy. And he does have mental issues. They are apparent. I grew up with this guy, and have seen the way he acts, and his moods are always unstable. I just don't like it at all/
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:36 PM on Apr. 30, 2010

  • don't ignore that feeling. even if he really is just a harmless old man, there's never a good enough reason to take that chance. we have those gut feelings for a reason.

    bestmommyeber

    Answer by bestmommyeber at 5:36 PM on Apr. 30, 2010

  • remember, one little mistake could mess up for DS FOREVER - we have only our gut to trust sometimes -
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:40 PM on Apr. 30, 2010

  • I don't think you should feel guilty at all. I wouldn't ever leave my children with someone that I had a doubt about.
    laciD

    Answer by laciD at 5:44 PM on Apr. 30, 2010

  • trust your instincts.

    hypermamaz

    Answer by hypermamaz at 5:45 PM on Apr. 30, 2010

  • Thank you all ladies.. I really wish it didn't have to be this way. I wish I could trust my son going to my moms house, but as long as he is there I will never feel comfortable with it. Even if he wasn't a CM... his moods are way too unstable. I don't trust him at all. My mom is not even happy with him around. She is always saying she wishes he would just leave, because he is always negative and brings a negative air around with him. She says she cant stand him, yet she trust him? I don't get it? I hate to sound this way. He is OK most the time, but others its up in the air. He is happy one minute then he gets all hurt over nothing the next and runs into the room pouting. And he is so rude to people when he gets this way.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:47 PM on Apr. 30, 2010

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