How much do finances play a role in your decisons? I have met someone who has debt. It is about $30,000 debt. I have No debt and dont want any. He sold his house and began staying with his parents while his mom was ill. (he is 28) He now has the opportunity to stay with his dad and pay off debt. I have told him I won't marry him unless he pays this debt off first. I want him to have his income available to put towards a household. I am willing to split the cost but I'm not paying for a house while he pays for dirt bikes, trucks and4wheelers. He just isnt good with money and i want him to learn this before we have a house together. I already went thru the struggle and paid off my debt..I want him to do it now while he can live bill free!!! Would you marry someone with debt if you were debt free?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:45 AM on May. 4, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by secondtyme520 at 10:49 AM on May. 4, 2010
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. If he is 28 and is $30,000 in debt from buying dirt bikes he isn't going to "learn". If he is $30,000 in debt because he helped feed and pay for meds for his sick mother that would be a different story. If the debt is student loan debt, almost everyone that went to college has student loan debt.
It sounds like being debt free is very important to you and not so important to him. If it was important to him he wouldn't be $30,000 in debt and living with his family. Money is a major stressor in marriage. It may be best if you ended the relationship.
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