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4yr old trouble again!!

Ok so my daughter will be 4 in like 10 days...her brother is 4 months old and she is still wanting to act like a baby we were told when we were taking a class on parenting...that she would start to act like a baby kinda go back a few steps in mile stones...she did really bad for a while then she was doing very good till just here recent she really started doing this...we still do one on one with her and when we do she acts up the hole time..she seems to want to put everything in her mouth and chew on stuff...i have told her i catch her with any of her toys in her mouth i wold throw it away and i hve done that a few times adn it didnt seem to work cause she still puts everything in her mouth....she see's her brother putting his fingers in his mouth so she does the same thing...can anyone give me so advice i have tried numerous things on this...please HELP!!!! thanks

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Asked by jess_angelica at 11:41 AM on May. 4, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Don't say things like you are going to throw things away. It was good that you did follow through.

    What's wrong with her putting things in her mouth? Is she damaging things? I don't think that's the problem or you would have said she was biting and destroying stuff. She isn't hurting the baby.

    It's normal for a 3-4 year old to still use a pacifier or suck a thumb or fingers. It doesn't mean she is acting like a baby or imatating her baby brother. Being corrected for it usually doesn't stop the behavior if it is an oral need. Give her some toys she can chew on. Give her food to chew on. Let her go all out on chewing. See what happens.


    Answer by Gailll at 11:55 AM on May. 4, 2010

  • It's important to choose your battles. Talk to people and you will find many people sucked their thumb or fingers when they turned 4. I was bottle fed and sucked my fingers until I was around 6.

    You might enjoy the parenting discussion boards at Mothering Magazine. There it's a little different from cm and the magazine has parenting articles and back articles.



    Answer by Gailll at 11:59 AM on May. 4, 2010

  • i have issues with hands in the mouth like you - that spreads germs - will get her sick - and is a thing BABIES do to comfort themselves - not age appropriate behavior for a 4 yr old... you reward her for not doing it... in small intervals at first like every 10 minutes you dont see it happens she gets a sticker on the chart. (then you could work up to morning, afternoon and night) ya do have to give rewards for a completed sticker chart but they can be free like a later bed time for being such a big girl. you tell her that she is your BIG girl. that she is so special. that she will get to learn everything before the younger child and that is really special. you fix it by building her up for accomplsihing the desired behavior in baby steps.

    Answer by AmaliaD at 2:26 PM on May. 4, 2010

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