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What is the best age to tall a child they're adopted?

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:03 PM on May. 5, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • from birth! A child should grow up knowing they were adopted, not remembering when they found out. Our 10 month old is adopted. We talk about it openly, and I'm making a scrapbook for her that tells the story of how we got her, going to pick her up/meeting her for the first time etc.

    Answer by maggiemom2000 at 9:10 PM on May. 5, 2010

  • I agree with PP. if you tell him/her at a certain age than it kindda looks like you were trying to hide it the whole time, right? My husband lived his life thinking that one man was his father but really the man just told his mother that it was okay that she cheated on him and that he will accept him as his son. when he found out he was a little mad. i apply the same concept to adopted children.

    Answer by khmymommi at 9:15 PM on May. 5, 2010

  • I like maggiemom thought on this.. Tell them too early and they may not understand, tell them too late and they may be upset with you. Them growing up knowing that just sounds right.. Kinda like just being open from day one.. Not oh you are 10 now so let me tell you this...

    Answer by midnightmoma at 9:16 PM on May. 5, 2010

  • From the beginning!

    Answer by Melissa823 at 9:16 PM on May. 5, 2010

  • As early as possible!
    Our dd was adopted from China at the age of 17 months. She knew that she didn't look like us and that something was different. We started explaining adoption and her story to her immediately. She has been home for 3 years and is now 4 1/2 years old. She understands her adoption story, although we have not gone into the politics and laws of China either.

    Answer by mcginnisc at 9:42 PM on May. 5, 2010

  • From birth read books about it, talk about, join groups where there are others like them. If you wait until they understand they'll be really really mad and it can create a ton of problems.

    Answer by mrsjonzy at 11:12 PM on May. 5, 2010

  • The day you bring them home. It should be part of their life from the beginning. then it is no big deal. If you wait until they are older, then you have lied to them.

    Answer by motherofhope98 at 9:45 AM on May. 6, 2010

  • 1 minute old! This is not a bomb that should be dropped, but something the child was raised knowing all along!

    Answer by salexander at 11:12 AM on May. 6, 2010

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