My grandfather, like his mother and grandmother before him, is dying of Alzheimer's. He's in the final stages - those really unbearable stages that only someone who has seen it can even imagine. We've had two "false alarms" of his impending death just in the last few months. Its really starting to wear on me, and my family. Years ago, before he was ever even diagnosed, he gave my family their inheritence - he said he "never wanted anyone he loved to be sitting around, waiting for him to die". And yet, here we all are, wishing (for HIS sake, not ours), that he could just pass on. I'm feeling incredibly guilty for that. We know he is suffering, and we want him to just be able to be free again. I feel like we are not honoring his wishes, but at the same time, for him to pass on would be better for HIM. Any advice for me? I'm just so conflicted.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:50 PM on May. 7, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 11:53 PM on May. 7, 2010
Keep visiting and keep talking to him. When my grandmother was in the nursing home it was hard to visit because we didn't think she knew who we were. Years after her death I had a dream, actually I don't think it was a dream but a visit because it was very real and I can remember it like yesterday. She came to me and said she always knew who we were but couldn't say anything. And I believe it's true. Just in case it is, wouldn't you want him to know your there and speak words of comfort to him? Sorry for your family, this is a tough situation.
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