My MIL lives in CA currently. WHen my husband was 17 (he is 23 now) she ran out on the family, taking her two daughters (2 and 5 years younger than hubby) and exposed them to drugs and sex. She had a couple of affairs. She was an alcoholic, into drugs, etc.
She married a psycho and then realized how psycho and moved to CA with another guy (still married to psycho, with divorce papers in). Hubby talks to her on the phone often. Which is fine. However, today she mentioned she is having her mail sent elsewhere b/c the "creditors are after her".
I am starting school soon. She wants to help pay for my school (with the money she does have that's hers) and watch our son while I go, to help us out. ie... move out here. With us. So she wants to prove to me, however she can, that I can trust her. (My family would have a freakin' fit and probably call CPS if we let her.. they live same town as us). My hubby is all for her coming. HELP!
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I would do baby steps and not start with the kid. See if she can maintain her own apartment and a job to support and care of herself. Ensure the divorce is final. Then see if she can be responsible enough to show up for a dinner once a week and be appropriate with your son. If she can do this for several months then see if she can babysit for a few hours just before bed time, to see if she can be responsible and put him to bed, follow your house rules, and while he is asleep be appropriate. Then look into upping the time and the responsible for her as long as she maintains an appropriate life style and is responsible. Also see if other family member could help out and just say that x person is already sitting. The pre-school idea is a great excuse.
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